What your inner child wants?

Sing a Song for the Little Ones

During the pandemic, I had the privilege of working in a school, a role that wasn’t just any job but a spiritual mission seemingly designed for me by the universe. I entered this position without clear expectations, knowing only that it provided a stable income, which was satisfaction enough. However, by the end of my tenure, I realized that the children had taught me far more than I could ever have hoped to teach them. This experience marked a profound understanding of what children truly are, a realization that came at the crucial moment of my transition from childhood to adulthood.

Spending my days running and playing with the kids, I felt like one of them, re-experiencing forgotten childhood moments and discovering new joys I had missed. As a child forced to mature quickly, I had lost many such moments, but this period allowed me to reclaim them, transforming my tapestry of childhood from one marked by trauma and neglect to one filled with joy and laughter.

I learned that children are essentially grown individuals in young bodies. This shift in perspective was enlightening; having been considered mature for my age, I never understood the origin of this maturity until observing the surprising maturity of some children at the school. Their so-called childishness stemmed from an unfamiliarity with the rules of our reality, a reality that anyone new would navigate similarly. Conformity in many ways is just learning the rules and quietly following. Rules of social elegance, sportsmanship, etiquette, bath rooming… Yet, they maintained an essence of pure freedom, fearlessness, resilience, love, and unbiased concern, reminding me of our true nature as humans and how the world had made me forget it.

The diversity of the school’s children, ranging in age, gender, size, and race, played together without regard for their differences, a stark contrast to my experiences where race was a constant topic. This highlighted the profound lessons children can teach us about humanity and relationships.

Months later, an encounter with a highly abusive narcissist, someone I considered a mother-figure until sinister truths were revealed who inflicted deep psychological and emotional wounds for reasons unknown led me to rediscover my own inner child. This painful experience, rather than being a trauma that broke me completely rendering me incapable of functioning, became an “activation” for not just my healing but for my spiritual gift. This attack was designed to crush my spirit. This person, sought to destroy my inner light by attacking my innerchild, the most vulnerable part of me. This experience was rich in spiritual significance. Also taught me the fragility of our sense of self and how that is constantly under attack because the goal simply isn’t the destruction of our minds anymore but the complete annihilation of the innerchild. This underscores the resilience of the inner child, the most authentic and untarnished part of our being. More on this story at a later time.

Your inner child, always alive and observing, influences every decision you make. It is a reminder of the untouched, perfect version of yourself, filled with light and love until the first trauma dims it.

What does your inner child want? Your inner child wants your ATTENTION!

The attention you never received as a child, your inner child wants that. The love you begged for from others, your inner child needs that. The patience you wished the world had with you, give that. Simply knowing your inner child exists is the greatest compass for adult life. Your passions and the activities that bring you the most joy and fulfillment are those you enjoyed as a child. Talk kindly to yourself, and by extension, to your inner child, in the ways you wished others had spoken to you. Hold and hug yourself in the ways your parents weren’t capable of. Be present with yourself and attune to the needs of your inner child in the ways you craved in childhood.

Treating your inner child with the attention, love, and patience it craves is essential for healing. If connecting with your inner child feels challenging, it signals a need for healing, which is entirely possible. Volunteering at a school or children’s hospital can be a step towards this healing, leveraging selflessness to tap into the universe’s grace.

I wish you the best on your journey towards healing.

With pure love,

Chu.